So I went out to eat the other night...by myself (shocking). I wanted to finish my book without interruptions (chocolate-dipped cheese cake for the mind, the "Twilight" series, if you don't know…don't ask, you're better off left in the dark). I would have been just as happy curled up on some moderately clean surface at home, but that's not an option…if the chief underwear washer is home; then by-golly, by-jiminy she had better be a'washin' something. (I work for short, cruel task-masters)
Anywho, I was completely absorbed in my book and lemon rice soup. I became aware on the fringes of my consciousness of a family sitting (I use this verb loosely) to my right. Then I was given no choice but to notice them when one of their bobble-headed children poked me on the arm on his way to the restroom. It took me by surprise (one does not think one will be accosted while eating soup), and I looked up to find a little pie-faced kid staring at me with a malicious grin. Sure I could have been projecting, I was reading a book about vampires, but I don't think so. "Okay kid", I thought, "I'm feeling charitable today. I will ignore your creepiness in favor of reading my book. Now scamper off and pee on the bathroom floor like I'm sure you do at home."
It soon became clear to me...this was not a "family" to be ignored. This was the kind of "family" that clears out restaurants and movie theaters. The kind of "family" that drives up to your house for a visit…and you lock all the doors and hang garlic and crosses around your neck. These little dears were so vile, so defectively behaved…I can't even spit/type out any description that can even come close to capturing their putrescence. To make the state of affairs even more painful, their parents were devoid of anything even remotely resembling a spinal column. I mean, we've all seen parents that kind of...well…stink on ice (and we probably are those parents occasionally. I mean not me, of course, but…), but these two took it to the level of freak show performance art: Come One, Come All!!! See with Your Own Eyes…the Amazingly, Dim-witted Parents Made Entirely of Grape Jelly, Teeth and Hair (excitement swells through the restaurant, and the crowd roars).
These two gelatinous mounds had zilcho by way of control on those two pint-sized chupacabras. They "begged" them to sit in the booth with them and wait for their food (in the restaurant's defense, it's hard to scare up a live sacrifice on short notice). They "pleaded" with them to not pretend to stab people with the Coney Island cutlery. They all but offered them blood money to stop running around the tables. I, of course, being the non-judgmental soul that I am, said nothing and continued to read (Yes…the books are that good). Finally, the kitchen staff produced whatever it is that demon seeds eat. These two smallish people informed their parents that they would not sit with them, and proceeded to plop down at yet another table even closer to me…why...why...why?
At this point, my Andi-O-Meter was tick, tick, ticking away; counting down the milliseconds to detonation. BUT I WAS TRUMPED!! Before I could even give my patented "I will stuff you in a small, dirty box in the back of my closet" look, Diablo One made a face and started yelling at the top of his lungs, "EWWWW, something smells….Oh, it's just her!!"…yep you guessed it...he was standing on his chair and pointing at me. There are moments in life when no reaction seems perfectly appropriate. There is not one action or word that comes to mind that will move you past the moment you are living in. This was just such a time. I just started to nod my head (I think a part of me always knew this day would come) and looked squinty eyed at the "Jello-Jigglers" parents. Their heads took on voodoo shrunken head proportions as they slumped down in their seats . The "mom" (I feel dirty even using this here) just sat there with her jaw unhinged (come on…was she really that surprised). She looked at me, while the "dad" kept his eyes firmly planted on his fish and chips, (which, FYI, is what that stench was…you little monster!!) and mumbled something about…"Oh, no, no, Barnaby (or some equally pretentious name), that must be the food your smelling". I can tell you what I was smelling…a couple of REEKINGLY HORRIFIC PARENTAL UNITS & THEIR FESTERINGLY ROTTEN CHILDREN!!!
The rest of their time in the restaurant was anti-climatic. The little fiends dug into their "chicken strips" (though I still suspect it was actually something more sinister) and left within 10 minutes. I think their handlers saw the other patrons of the Coney Island fashioning pitchforks and torches out of forks and chicken shish-kebobs. I continued to read as they exited, but I still wasn't off the hook. The "mom" stopped at my table on the way out and said in her most convincing breathy voice, "I'm so sorry if the boys disrupted your reading…" Again…for the second time in one evening (let alone one lifetime) I was speechless…which was then followed by a sort of loud snort/laughy/raspberry-blowing thingy. "Yeah, sure", I say with as much sarcasm as possible when your drooling on yourself "no problem" (laugh, hiccup, snort...sigh).
Friday, April 30, 2010
The Snow-Capped Covered Gloves are Coming Off
Dear Parents:
WHY DO YOU LET YOUR TEENAGERS GO TO THE MOVIES UNCHAPERONED WHEN YOU KNOW THEY ARE BRAIN DEAD & LACK ALL SOCIAL GRACES!!!!!!
WHY WHY WHY In the name of all that's butterlicious....why? (Banging head against empty box of Snow Caps)...(side note: I like to use my big front teeth ((that my parents didn't deem worthy of braces...even though they sprang for my sisters and she now has a lovely smile)) to scrape the white candy dots off every little chocolatey cap...what fun, what joy)
Sorry...getting back on track....
Furthermore, why must they always see what I am seeing...and in that same vein...What does that say about my taste in movies. Moving on, if I see your teenager at the movie theater again...I will kidnap her/him and make her/him clean all the most disgusting bits of my house. We will call this just compensation for the hard-earned (though not by me) money I paid to see "House Bunny"...
I feel this is the only course of action left to me after tonight's "incident"...
Me: Sinking comfortably into the fetid seat I will call home for the next 98 minutes.
You're Obnoxious Children: Guffawing at every stupid thing their idiot boyfriends say. Snapping their gum (which if you have read my earlier blogs would know is punishable with a beat down), and generally being little cretins.
The movie begins....Scene One: The Playboy Mansion. Your group of jerkies use a laser pointer to show everyone in the movie theater just where all the breasts are on the screen. Oh, how lucky for us to have this tutorial. After each point...laughter...loud and forced. I sat in my seat as long as I could. I assessed my chances of making it out of the theater alive after I say something. I decided to wait it out, but as luck would have it, my patience is shorter than your children's anatomy lesson.
At this point I half stand and turn around and yell in my best "outside demon voice", "SERIOUSLY, KNOCK IT OFF!" 6 teens (and a few training program pre-teens) get wide-eyed and look around at each other in accusation. I sat down and enjoyed the rest of the movie...little red laser free.
After the movie comes the exhausting posturing I must now do to show I am crazier and meaner than they could ever be. I wait to see if they leave. I have to stand up slowly and give a little faux stretch as if to say "You Bore Me!" I turn around and look every last little bugger in the eye with my dead-eye glare. I then saunter out of the row (it is crucial at this point that you don't trip...that really spoils the effect). I stroll down the stairs and out of the theater. I wait to see if they follow...when they don't....I bolt to my vehicle looking over my shoulder the whole way.
This whole process could be avoided if you simply show some common sense and attend said movies with your rude little darlings. If you cannot trust them to do anything mannerly or logical at home, they why for the love of cheesy pretzels are you sending them my way. Please do not force me to make good on my little "teen-napping" scheme. You have no idea how dirty those bits of my house can be!!!
Sincerely,
A woman who likes her movies and you best not be messing with that.
WHY DO YOU LET YOUR TEENAGERS GO TO THE MOVIES UNCHAPERONED WHEN YOU KNOW THEY ARE BRAIN DEAD & LACK ALL SOCIAL GRACES!!!!!!
WHY WHY WHY In the name of all that's butterlicious....why? (Banging head against empty box of Snow Caps)...(side note: I like to use my big front teeth ((that my parents didn't deem worthy of braces...even though they sprang for my sisters and she now has a lovely smile)) to scrape the white candy dots off every little chocolatey cap...what fun, what joy)
Sorry...getting back on track....
Furthermore, why must they always see what I am seeing...and in that same vein...What does that say about my taste in movies. Moving on, if I see your teenager at the movie theater again...I will kidnap her/him and make her/him clean all the most disgusting bits of my house. We will call this just compensation for the hard-earned (though not by me) money I paid to see "House Bunny"...
I feel this is the only course of action left to me after tonight's "incident"...
Me: Sinking comfortably into the fetid seat I will call home for the next 98 minutes.
You're Obnoxious Children: Guffawing at every stupid thing their idiot boyfriends say. Snapping their gum (which if you have read my earlier blogs would know is punishable with a beat down), and generally being little cretins.
The movie begins....Scene One: The Playboy Mansion. Your group of jerkies use a laser pointer to show everyone in the movie theater just where all the breasts are on the screen. Oh, how lucky for us to have this tutorial. After each point...laughter...loud and forced. I sat in my seat as long as I could. I assessed my chances of making it out of the theater alive after I say something. I decided to wait it out, but as luck would have it, my patience is shorter than your children's anatomy lesson.
At this point I half stand and turn around and yell in my best "outside demon voice", "SERIOUSLY, KNOCK IT OFF!" 6 teens (and a few training program pre-teens) get wide-eyed and look around at each other in accusation. I sat down and enjoyed the rest of the movie...little red laser free.
After the movie comes the exhausting posturing I must now do to show I am crazier and meaner than they could ever be. I wait to see if they leave. I have to stand up slowly and give a little faux stretch as if to say "You Bore Me!" I turn around and look every last little bugger in the eye with my dead-eye glare. I then saunter out of the row (it is crucial at this point that you don't trip...that really spoils the effect). I stroll down the stairs and out of the theater. I wait to see if they follow...when they don't....I bolt to my vehicle looking over my shoulder the whole way.
This whole process could be avoided if you simply show some common sense and attend said movies with your rude little darlings. If you cannot trust them to do anything mannerly or logical at home, they why for the love of cheesy pretzels are you sending them my way. Please do not force me to make good on my little "teen-napping" scheme. You have no idea how dirty those bits of my house can be!!!
Sincerely,
A woman who likes her movies and you best not be messing with that.
Beans and Rice in the School Parking Lot
I always thought it sounded so gross when I would hear a Mom say with all fervor..."I CAN'T WAIT FOR SCHOOL TO START!". My marshmallow center would shrink a little as I gazed lovingly at my beautiful boys playing on the floor. How could anyone be so callous? How could they not adore having their progeny right where they could see them, and smash their little faces with kisses anytime they wanted? Why would you want to shuttle your little darlings off, when you could be with them every waking moment kissing their chubby, dimpled feet and tickling their distended milk-filled bellies....Ah yes, the good old days...
I have discovered that these feelings fade as your children grow into smallish adults. Little people with all the same nasty attitudes, cranky mornings and "I'm board" afternoons that full-on adults have. At this point, I think it must be said that I have considered parking them in front of the school with their back packs and some canned goods for the next two weeks.
I mean, don't think that I'm unfeeling...I would drive by a couple of times a week when I get coffee and check on them...for goodness sakes, I'm not a monster.
Well, anyway...I let you know if the State of Michigan considers this "Self-Defense" or "Child Endangerment"...stay tuned.
I have discovered that these feelings fade as your children grow into smallish adults. Little people with all the same nasty attitudes, cranky mornings and "I'm board" afternoons that full-on adults have. At this point, I think it must be said that I have considered parking them in front of the school with their back packs and some canned goods for the next two weeks.
I mean, don't think that I'm unfeeling...I would drive by a couple of times a week when I get coffee and check on them...for goodness sakes, I'm not a monster.
Well, anyway...I let you know if the State of Michigan considers this "Self-Defense" or "Child Endangerment"...stay tuned.
Do Not Make Me Waddle Over There
There is no such thing as the "Perfect Parent". This is a mythical creature that gallops through the forest with unicorns and sits down to tea with hobbits. Unfortunately, at the other end of the spectrum, there are horrific parents. Monsters that walk in the light...but I am not going to talk about either of those. I am here to address and bash the "If I could stop thinking about myself for 3 seconds put together, I might actually have a shot at being a half-way decent parent." (Model year 2008)
These are the idiots who treat their kids (and yours if they coach soccer) as accoutrement to their self-involved lives. Children are not whole entities to them, but rather living breathing extensions of how they define themselves. There is no care given to Billy's easily bruised developing ego, because "Coach Jerk-Face" is too busy wondering how a losing team will make him look. I had an opportunity a while back to see this beast in action, and was stunned that no one (with the exception of guess who) had the gumption to tell this flaming idiot to close his whoppers hole....(picture that "doo-doo, doo-doo, doo-doo" Scooby doo thing)...
The year...2000 (but really, you probably saw this guy last week). The setting: my house which backed up to a playground / soccer field...I was pregnant with my second son, and enjoying a balmy Michigan afternoon. The weather was text book perfect. The door wall was open and the sounds of little kid voices from the soccer field were bouncing around my dining room. I sat in a rocking chair reading (what a motherly scene) something by Diana Gabaldon (run out now and buy the whole series...you will thank me for it).
Soon the soccer game starts. All these little munchkin people running around in their primary colored shirts and shiny shorts. This continues for a while...and I am completely engrossed in my book...a rhino could have given me the finger, and I wouldn't have noticed. Then through the back door of my psyche I hear this voice...you know the kind. It makes the back of your neck tingle unpleasantly (which my sister and I have named "the tinglies"...when the tone in someone's voice irritates you to the point that you consider jacking them).
Anywho, this voice I realize is actually a feet-stomping, arm-waving, screaming me-me whose name is "COACH". This guy could have given Bobby Knight a run for his money...however, the obvious difference being the size and age of the people he was freaking out on. He was going ape-bongo-nutso on children no bigger than garden gnomes. This went on for MANY LONG MINUTES. His voice carried across the field and slammed into me...syllable by syllable. I kept waiting for an outraged parent to walk up and cold-cock him, but nope everyone just sat on their little canvas-bag toted chairs drinking their "poisoned-Kool-Aid". As this continues, a red hot rage begins to make it's way from my feet to the top of my head...actual steam began to bellow out my ears and nostrils.
My husband walks into the room to see me pacing back and forth (with a waddle) hands on hips, and that tell-tale look on my face. He sees said look, and begins to talk me down...this DOES NOT WORK. Finally, when I can stand it no longer, my jaw unhinges and I scream for all the world to hear, "OH, FOR THE LOVE OF CHEESECAKE, SHUT YOUR GAPING CAKE WHOLE". "THEY ARE LITTLE KIDS, NOT THE MANCHESTER UNITED TEAM".
A stunned semi-quiet falls over the field as eyes swing my way. People begin to titter and laugh. The coach's eyes bug out as he focuses on my 5 foot tall penguin shaped body. And then the clapping begins...not Carnegie Hall worthy, but a nice smattering of applause. My husband stands in the other room shaking his head, and I throw my hands up in the universally accepted Italian gesture of "what..what are you lookin' at". Needless to say the game continued, and I needed a bowl of ice cream to calm down.
I recount this story not to put myself up as some sort of paragon of parental/maternal virtue, but simply to say this...If you are screaming your bloody head off in public...where we can all see you, you raving moron...then what, perchance, do you do to your kids in private. Please consider this the next time you decide that these little INDIVIDUALS have shamed you so terribly that your only recourse is to have a verbal aneurism....and to all the parents who just sat in their canvas seats (which I will admit are hard to get out of), next time be the protector that your job description requires of you.
I bid you adieu.
These are the idiots who treat their kids (and yours if they coach soccer) as accoutrement to their self-involved lives. Children are not whole entities to them, but rather living breathing extensions of how they define themselves. There is no care given to Billy's easily bruised developing ego, because "Coach Jerk-Face" is too busy wondering how a losing team will make him look. I had an opportunity a while back to see this beast in action, and was stunned that no one (with the exception of guess who) had the gumption to tell this flaming idiot to close his whoppers hole....(picture that "doo-doo, doo-doo, doo-doo" Scooby doo thing)...
The year...2000 (but really, you probably saw this guy last week). The setting: my house which backed up to a playground / soccer field...I was pregnant with my second son, and enjoying a balmy Michigan afternoon. The weather was text book perfect. The door wall was open and the sounds of little kid voices from the soccer field were bouncing around my dining room. I sat in a rocking chair reading (what a motherly scene) something by Diana Gabaldon (run out now and buy the whole series...you will thank me for it).
Soon the soccer game starts. All these little munchkin people running around in their primary colored shirts and shiny shorts. This continues for a while...and I am completely engrossed in my book...a rhino could have given me the finger, and I wouldn't have noticed. Then through the back door of my psyche I hear this voice...you know the kind. It makes the back of your neck tingle unpleasantly (which my sister and I have named "the tinglies"...when the tone in someone's voice irritates you to the point that you consider jacking them).
Anywho, this voice I realize is actually a feet-stomping, arm-waving, screaming me-me whose name is "COACH". This guy could have given Bobby Knight a run for his money...however, the obvious difference being the size and age of the people he was freaking out on. He was going ape-bongo-nutso on children no bigger than garden gnomes. This went on for MANY LONG MINUTES. His voice carried across the field and slammed into me...syllable by syllable. I kept waiting for an outraged parent to walk up and cold-cock him, but nope everyone just sat on their little canvas-bag toted chairs drinking their "poisoned-Kool-Aid". As this continues, a red hot rage begins to make it's way from my feet to the top of my head...actual steam began to bellow out my ears and nostrils.
My husband walks into the room to see me pacing back and forth (with a waddle) hands on hips, and that tell-tale look on my face. He sees said look, and begins to talk me down...this DOES NOT WORK. Finally, when I can stand it no longer, my jaw unhinges and I scream for all the world to hear, "OH, FOR THE LOVE OF CHEESECAKE, SHUT YOUR GAPING CAKE WHOLE". "THEY ARE LITTLE KIDS, NOT THE MANCHESTER UNITED TEAM".
A stunned semi-quiet falls over the field as eyes swing my way. People begin to titter and laugh. The coach's eyes bug out as he focuses on my 5 foot tall penguin shaped body. And then the clapping begins...not Carnegie Hall worthy, but a nice smattering of applause. My husband stands in the other room shaking his head, and I throw my hands up in the universally accepted Italian gesture of "what..what are you lookin' at". Needless to say the game continued, and I needed a bowl of ice cream to calm down.
I recount this story not to put myself up as some sort of paragon of parental/maternal virtue, but simply to say this...If you are screaming your bloody head off in public...where we can all see you, you raving moron...then what, perchance, do you do to your kids in private. Please consider this the next time you decide that these little INDIVIDUALS have shamed you so terribly that your only recourse is to have a verbal aneurism....and to all the parents who just sat in their canvas seats (which I will admit are hard to get out of), next time be the protector that your job description requires of you.
I bid you adieu.
Simple is as Simple Does
Michigan is crisp this morning. The leaves are markedly burnt orange, brick red, and goldenrod, and the sky is a watery cornflower blue that hugs the curve of the world. It’s like God only used these 4 crayons to color the fall skyline today.
The frosted tips of the crunchy grass look like snow in the 7 a.m. light. It’s not cold enough yet for gloves; just for pulling your fingers back into your sleeves. I am sitting on my porch watching my boys wait for the bus. Their voices shoot around the yard without the sound dampening benefit of full-bloom trees and bushes.
My hot, not-too-sweet coffee and 7 grain toast (all health benefits negated by the pools of butter melted on top) keep me company. The dog lays next to me with one eye on the boys and one eye on my breakfast. She knows if she doesn’t get too fresh, I’ll flip her a piece of crust.
As the cold leeches from the porch into the seat of my pajamas, I am struck by the “ordinariness” of this little tableau. It’s the kind of scene you hope you will have as an adult. Your adult self is “master” of all that you survey. It’s a bitter-sweet picture, you now know, that’s as simple and as complicated as every little microscopic level of real “adult” life.
I can hear the bus rumbling a block away. The boys don’t notice or don’t care, and they continue their game of “monster freeze-tag” (in keeping with the season, of course). They won’t remember this morning when they are 38 and 40, but I know that when I am 67 I will have memorized this morning as one of the loveliest and most prized snap shots of our lives. As the bus roars away, on every macro and microscopic level of real “adult” life, I know that I am blessed.
The frosted tips of the crunchy grass look like snow in the 7 a.m. light. It’s not cold enough yet for gloves; just for pulling your fingers back into your sleeves. I am sitting on my porch watching my boys wait for the bus. Their voices shoot around the yard without the sound dampening benefit of full-bloom trees and bushes.
My hot, not-too-sweet coffee and 7 grain toast (all health benefits negated by the pools of butter melted on top) keep me company. The dog lays next to me with one eye on the boys and one eye on my breakfast. She knows if she doesn’t get too fresh, I’ll flip her a piece of crust.
As the cold leeches from the porch into the seat of my pajamas, I am struck by the “ordinariness” of this little tableau. It’s the kind of scene you hope you will have as an adult. Your adult self is “master” of all that you survey. It’s a bitter-sweet picture, you now know, that’s as simple and as complicated as every little microscopic level of real “adult” life.
I can hear the bus rumbling a block away. The boys don’t notice or don’t care, and they continue their game of “monster freeze-tag” (in keeping with the season, of course). They won’t remember this morning when they are 38 and 40, but I know that when I am 67 I will have memorized this morning as one of the loveliest and most prized snap shots of our lives. As the bus roars away, on every macro and microscopic level of real “adult” life, I know that I am blessed.
Pixie Dust, Woodsmoke and Memories
My neighbors are clearing their woods today. The downed trees and soggy leaves are heaped together and burning. It’s a good day to do this chore. The bright white clouds and plush blue sky are lying conspicuously against one another like felt cut-outs. I walk down the gravel driveway wearing a sweatshirt, shorts and mud boots because, after an unsympathetic Michigan winter, 39 degrees feels like a vacation and I find myself stretching toward the sun like my son’s leopard gecko. I raise my winter pale nose in the air and smell the rot and the new of spring. They're coming together in a kind of rock-opera for the senses. It’s a textured blend of drama, familiarity and unexpected surprises that keeps me breathing in deeply. The magic smell of wood smoke breezes by me and my memories roll back and forward. They shift sideways down my timeline and come to a jerky stop on my 1976 memories. These are the sweet and awkward and lovely spaces in time that layer over each other and press together to make a 38 year old wife and mom of 3…
I can remember lying on our bellies on the cold rug-covered floor at Gnon and Don's (that's Grandma and Grandpa in our regional dialect). The bottom level of the villa house, because of tradition and culture, is used for mid-day meals, work day gathering and the frequent ringing of chicken necks. Because it’s partially in the ground, it’s getting cold downstairs now and the big fireplace is burning. Gnon is kneading bread at the long table and us kids are spread out on the floors and shabby couches watching a little black and white TV with rabbit ears and tinfoil. We are completely focused on Bo and Luke Duke’s run from the law. We take turns sitting on the hearth stone to warm up, and because there is no grate over the opening, you can only sit still for a few minutes at a time. We switch places when the hot slab burns our little backsides and we jump off itching the seats of our farm-dirt covered pants. It doesn’t matter how filthy we are down here. This area is made for farm people. The big double doors let in the occasional stray goat and chicken and work boots and coats line the wall. The dirt feels good here, and is as perfectly met to the space as flocked wall paper in a fancy hotel.
Lunch will be here soon and we will all meet together at the long table. Gnon already has pots bubbling and bread sliced. Maybe it’s pasta with fresh bread for sopping, or polenta with sauce and hard salami freckled with spicy peppercorns. There will be wine for the adults and a sort of “kiddie wine spritzer” for us. A splash of wine and then filled the rest of the way with “Lime-Up”, the glass-bottled Italian version of the American brand. Lunch is a raucous time where kids can talk and laugh and the adults argue and swear. We know implicitly which words we can repeat and which ones we save to say to each other in secret. Sometimes we are yelled at, but we know that’s just how the people that love you talk. There are cookies after. Sesame cookies and flower shaped cookies with maraschino cherries in the middle. We drink little cups of dark, thick coffee with a splash of cream and mounds of sugar. Finally we are stuffed and warm through and through and the adults break away to go back to work. Today the pigs are being loaded and taken away.
Warmed up again we wander outside and throw pebbles at the chickens. I visit my pet rabbits, Romeo & Juliet. They were a gift last Easter from my city Aunt and Uncle. They have quite a family now and sometimes their off-spring ends up in a stew on Gnon’s table, but so far my long-eared, star-crossed lovers have escaped this fate. We run into the hay storage and rush to lie down on the stepped levels of hay bales. It pokes through our clothes, but keeps us warm. We argue about what to play. I am tired of playing house because I am always the mom and never get to be the teenager. The older boys are bored and they start to pick on us to fill the time. We all start to argue and sides are chosen. We run out and split off from each other, running around the house. I dash up the side stairs to the balcony that runs the length of the top level of the house. My cousin joins me and we press our cold noses against the windows and look in at the all the finery.
The top level is very rarely seen by us from the inside. The couches are creamy colored and covered in plastic. The carpet is thick and there are pretty things made of glass and polished metals everywhere. The dining table is covered in a white cloth with lacey parts and over that, the requisite plastic cover. On the table there are two beautiful demitasse cups decorated with gold, and delicate little spoons rest on the matching saucers. This world is only visited when we are spanking clean and on our best behavior. It’s for the day of rest and quiet visits, and as beautiful as it is, we would rather wear our dirty clothes and roll around down stairs.
From this high vantage point, we can see across the dirt road to the field where the pigs are being loaded into a big red truck with slatted-board sides. The obese pigs bump against each other as they are herded into the back. I feel embarrassed for them that they don’t have any pants to cover their naked pink bottoms as they are pushed and prodded from behind. Their squealing carries across the field to us on the balcony. I know that they are going to give us food, but I think of it more as a voluntary offering. They will give us their bacon and pork chops and then stay all tucked up in their wide piggy beds until they feel better. Sometimes I bring my mom two halves of a gartner snake that my cousin has run over with his bike. I know that if she just puts a band-aid on it, it will be up and slithering through the garden in no time. My parents don’t feel the need to tell me any different and we are all happy with my view of the world.
The pigs are loaded, and the truck is lumbering away down the dirt road past my house, and past my Aunt Pina and Uncle Jim’s, and my Auntie Emma and Uncle Carlo’s and out into the big world beyond that I rarely see. We all wander back downstairs to wait for our parents. It’s time to go home and soak off the day and eat dinner. Gnon slips us a cookie for the walk home and we are all suddenly so tired every step is a chore. My dad and I break off first, and the rest of the group continues down the road. I’m happy to be home and I am immediately directed to the tub. I put on my Holly Hobbie pajamas and come down to eat. My house is warm and scrubbed clean and we sit at the island counter and eat together. Maybe we will watch a little TV afterward or maybe not, but I know tonight I will fall asleep snuggled up with my folks…
I pull the mail out of the box and head back up the driveway to the house. The boys will be home from school soon and dinner has to be started. I am so filled to the brim with emotions that I cry just a little. I am not at all sad, but that’s what I do when I feel too full. I walk and pray and thank God for giving me my life. For allowing all the layers of me, even the ones I would rather cast off. I think of my Grandpa who loved me all out and taught me the value of comedy. I remember my Aunt Pina who I still miss and cry for, and of all the others still here and loved even if we talk infrequently. I tell God I know how blessed I am and that I won’t forget to pass it on. My boys will be that loved, that sure of their place in the world. They will have layers created by their father and me and by all the family and friends that surround them. They will be yelled at in love and snuggled with under the blankets while we watch TV. Their world view will grow with them as they mature and when they are fathers they will be able to run down the timeline of their lives and know that they are blessed.
I can remember lying on our bellies on the cold rug-covered floor at Gnon and Don's (that's Grandma and Grandpa in our regional dialect). The bottom level of the villa house, because of tradition and culture, is used for mid-day meals, work day gathering and the frequent ringing of chicken necks. Because it’s partially in the ground, it’s getting cold downstairs now and the big fireplace is burning. Gnon is kneading bread at the long table and us kids are spread out on the floors and shabby couches watching a little black and white TV with rabbit ears and tinfoil. We are completely focused on Bo and Luke Duke’s run from the law. We take turns sitting on the hearth stone to warm up, and because there is no grate over the opening, you can only sit still for a few minutes at a time. We switch places when the hot slab burns our little backsides and we jump off itching the seats of our farm-dirt covered pants. It doesn’t matter how filthy we are down here. This area is made for farm people. The big double doors let in the occasional stray goat and chicken and work boots and coats line the wall. The dirt feels good here, and is as perfectly met to the space as flocked wall paper in a fancy hotel.
Lunch will be here soon and we will all meet together at the long table. Gnon already has pots bubbling and bread sliced. Maybe it’s pasta with fresh bread for sopping, or polenta with sauce and hard salami freckled with spicy peppercorns. There will be wine for the adults and a sort of “kiddie wine spritzer” for us. A splash of wine and then filled the rest of the way with “Lime-Up”, the glass-bottled Italian version of the American brand. Lunch is a raucous time where kids can talk and laugh and the adults argue and swear. We know implicitly which words we can repeat and which ones we save to say to each other in secret. Sometimes we are yelled at, but we know that’s just how the people that love you talk. There are cookies after. Sesame cookies and flower shaped cookies with maraschino cherries in the middle. We drink little cups of dark, thick coffee with a splash of cream and mounds of sugar. Finally we are stuffed and warm through and through and the adults break away to go back to work. Today the pigs are being loaded and taken away.
Warmed up again we wander outside and throw pebbles at the chickens. I visit my pet rabbits, Romeo & Juliet. They were a gift last Easter from my city Aunt and Uncle. They have quite a family now and sometimes their off-spring ends up in a stew on Gnon’s table, but so far my long-eared, star-crossed lovers have escaped this fate. We run into the hay storage and rush to lie down on the stepped levels of hay bales. It pokes through our clothes, but keeps us warm. We argue about what to play. I am tired of playing house because I am always the mom and never get to be the teenager. The older boys are bored and they start to pick on us to fill the time. We all start to argue and sides are chosen. We run out and split off from each other, running around the house. I dash up the side stairs to the balcony that runs the length of the top level of the house. My cousin joins me and we press our cold noses against the windows and look in at the all the finery.
The top level is very rarely seen by us from the inside. The couches are creamy colored and covered in plastic. The carpet is thick and there are pretty things made of glass and polished metals everywhere. The dining table is covered in a white cloth with lacey parts and over that, the requisite plastic cover. On the table there are two beautiful demitasse cups decorated with gold, and delicate little spoons rest on the matching saucers. This world is only visited when we are spanking clean and on our best behavior. It’s for the day of rest and quiet visits, and as beautiful as it is, we would rather wear our dirty clothes and roll around down stairs.
From this high vantage point, we can see across the dirt road to the field where the pigs are being loaded into a big red truck with slatted-board sides. The obese pigs bump against each other as they are herded into the back. I feel embarrassed for them that they don’t have any pants to cover their naked pink bottoms as they are pushed and prodded from behind. Their squealing carries across the field to us on the balcony. I know that they are going to give us food, but I think of it more as a voluntary offering. They will give us their bacon and pork chops and then stay all tucked up in their wide piggy beds until they feel better. Sometimes I bring my mom two halves of a gartner snake that my cousin has run over with his bike. I know that if she just puts a band-aid on it, it will be up and slithering through the garden in no time. My parents don’t feel the need to tell me any different and we are all happy with my view of the world.
The pigs are loaded, and the truck is lumbering away down the dirt road past my house, and past my Aunt Pina and Uncle Jim’s, and my Auntie Emma and Uncle Carlo’s and out into the big world beyond that I rarely see. We all wander back downstairs to wait for our parents. It’s time to go home and soak off the day and eat dinner. Gnon slips us a cookie for the walk home and we are all suddenly so tired every step is a chore. My dad and I break off first, and the rest of the group continues down the road. I’m happy to be home and I am immediately directed to the tub. I put on my Holly Hobbie pajamas and come down to eat. My house is warm and scrubbed clean and we sit at the island counter and eat together. Maybe we will watch a little TV afterward or maybe not, but I know tonight I will fall asleep snuggled up with my folks…
I pull the mail out of the box and head back up the driveway to the house. The boys will be home from school soon and dinner has to be started. I am so filled to the brim with emotions that I cry just a little. I am not at all sad, but that’s what I do when I feel too full. I walk and pray and thank God for giving me my life. For allowing all the layers of me, even the ones I would rather cast off. I think of my Grandpa who loved me all out and taught me the value of comedy. I remember my Aunt Pina who I still miss and cry for, and of all the others still here and loved even if we talk infrequently. I tell God I know how blessed I am and that I won’t forget to pass it on. My boys will be that loved, that sure of their place in the world. They will have layers created by their father and me and by all the family and friends that surround them. They will be yelled at in love and snuggled with under the blankets while we watch TV. Their world view will grow with them as they mature and when they are fathers they will be able to run down the timeline of their lives and know that they are blessed.
The Zone is Coming, The Zone is Coming
Effectively immediately. I have entered what my husband calls "the zone". The zone is where I live for roughly 5 to 7 days a month. Here there is no place for the weak or mealy-mouthed. This volatile substation of life is where I get most of my "Bitnus" done. This is when I call the cable/credit card company. This is when I get warranty work done...with no extra charges. And this is when berrating phone calls, ranting letters and threatening emails are sent. So be advised: I have arrived in the zone...Run children run.
The zone is a "No Way in H.E. Double Hockey Sticks" wonderland. I will cut you in the zone. I will drop you like a bag of cement. So please...do not make me hurt you, because I will wear your skin as a suit and like it.
Apparently the life-sized "Non-Fat Grande Carmel Machiatto Barbie" did not get the memo.
Scene of the Crime: Backing up at Starbucks...you have to do that to actually leave the parking lot. The VIC: Just another completely oblivious humanoid. Here she comes like a blonde bat out of hell, zipping in at about 2 parsecs. She barrels into the spot beside me at a perilous angle as I slam on my brakes so as not to crush her plastic Barbie Jeep. As I gape in amazement at the utter lunacy of people, this dumb dumb has the unmitigated gall to not even look sheepish, but instead chews her gum (open mouthed) and flicks her hair in disdain. OH, IT IS ON!!
My sister, who is renowned for her temper in these situations, shoots me a nervous glance. That's right little girl...get ready for your beat down. I finish pulling out and stay parked firmly behind her mobile. She sits in her car...making up reasons not to get out. Finally, she graces me with her scantily clad presence. Please note she is still chewing her gum in an utterly offensive manner. I roll down the window and simply offer the kind advice.."Maybe you oughta lay off the gas when your pulling "into" a spot there, Helio Castoneves". She then offers me some lovely advice back, "Maybe you oughta learn how to pull out of a parking lot."...OH NO SHE DIDN'T!! I then, with all love and affection, offer these words, "Maybe you oughta not chew your cud like the cow that you are and learn how to drive...you dumb, boney wench".
Yep, then I went and had a lovely buffalo chicken salad at Chilis...the whole while ranting under my breath other equally loving things I shoulda, coulda, woulda said.
I'll just be over here, sharpening my tools, if you need me...
The zone is a "No Way in H.E. Double Hockey Sticks" wonderland. I will cut you in the zone. I will drop you like a bag of cement. So please...do not make me hurt you, because I will wear your skin as a suit and like it.
Apparently the life-sized "Non-Fat Grande Carmel Machiatto Barbie" did not get the memo.
Scene of the Crime: Backing up at Starbucks...you have to do that to actually leave the parking lot. The VIC: Just another completely oblivious humanoid. Here she comes like a blonde bat out of hell, zipping in at about 2 parsecs. She barrels into the spot beside me at a perilous angle as I slam on my brakes so as not to crush her plastic Barbie Jeep. As I gape in amazement at the utter lunacy of people, this dumb dumb has the unmitigated gall to not even look sheepish, but instead chews her gum (open mouthed) and flicks her hair in disdain. OH, IT IS ON!!
My sister, who is renowned for her temper in these situations, shoots me a nervous glance. That's right little girl...get ready for your beat down. I finish pulling out and stay parked firmly behind her mobile. She sits in her car...making up reasons not to get out. Finally, she graces me with her scantily clad presence. Please note she is still chewing her gum in an utterly offensive manner. I roll down the window and simply offer the kind advice.."Maybe you oughta lay off the gas when your pulling "into" a spot there, Helio Castoneves". She then offers me some lovely advice back, "Maybe you oughta learn how to pull out of a parking lot."...OH NO SHE DIDN'T!! I then, with all love and affection, offer these words, "Maybe you oughta not chew your cud like the cow that you are and learn how to drive...you dumb, boney wench".
Yep, then I went and had a lovely buffalo chicken salad at Chilis...the whole while ranting under my breath other equally loving things I shoulda, coulda, woulda said.
I'll just be over here, sharpening my tools, if you need me...
Can They Really Be Considered "Cartoons" with All That Shading and Highlighting
Tonight I experienced possibly the MOST uncomfortable and embarrassing moments I’ve had since coming back from summer vacation 8th grade year after “blossoming” into womanhood (and FYI, junior high boys, we know you don’t keep jabbing our newly “blossomed” parts with your boney elbows in the hallway on accident…so knock it off, before we start doing some “experimental” kicking of our own…but I digress). My friends, tonight I viewed the “Growing-Up Boys” program at my son’s school. I knew this evening wasn’t going to be all lollipops and rainbows, but I believed I would be able to maintain an appropriately academic expression all while taking “thought-provoking” notes on the video’s content. I’ll just say at the outset…this would have been a whole lot easier to do with a room full of people to buffet all the “Growing-Up Boy” jargon, diagrams and incredibly realistic and anatomically correct “cartoons” (can they really be considered “cartoons” with all that shading and highlighting?). However, alone in the room with the 30-something male principal and the 20-something (okay I’ll say it, nicely put-together) male gym teacher….in a word…PAINFUL!! (feel free to snicker here…I would too).
At the end of every 5th grade year, my son’s school offers the “Growing-Up” program. The girls and boys are separated and shown videos about their changing bodies (oh goody) and have a kind of “what to expect when you are expecting horrific puberty-induced changes to your body” discussion. They give parents the opportunity to view the program ahead of time and have your child “opt-out” if the program doesn’t meet with your approval (providing you have received said “opt-out” slip…if not…tough luck for you and your impressionable youngster). The whole “opt-out” or “denial-slip” policy has been a bone of contention with me and the school district for a while now. I find it ridiculously back-handed to send home denial slips (that usually end up lost or covered in some kind of unmentionable schmootz at the bottom of the schoolbag) for any program that isn’t reading, writing or ‘rithmetic related. I think this is just big government, once again, reaching the lowest common denominator and circumventing our parental rights to give our expressed “permission” for our children to view any programs outside of the normal curriculum’s purview …but let’s go on before this disintegrates into one of my conspiracy theory rants (I make O’Reilly look like some Mr. Microphone toting kindergartener).
When the principal asked us to raise our hands if we were a “boy-parent” and my lone digits reached toward the drop ceiling, I knew I was in for a rip-roaring’ good time. He explained that the programs dealt solely with the changes the students would be experiencing over the coming year and hygiene related issues. He very pointedly said that they would not be discussing the mechanics of s-e-x. (gee…we’re not going to give a “how-to” lecture about s-e-x with 11 years olds…why ever not). At this point, the boy-parent and the girl-parents were separated into different rooms. As I walked down the looonnng echoey hallway with the principal and gym-teacher, my alter-ego (Andrea, the nervously inappropriate comedienne), began to surface. She said things like, “good-times guys, good-times” and “if you hear what you think is giggling, assume I’m choking and that I am performing a self-Heimlich maneuver”. Ever being the “good” student I took the front seat until the principal informed me I may be “uncomfortably” close to the material. We all take our seats (and no, gross, not next to each other…sick) and the video begins. Right off the bat my foot tapped in time to the beat of the early 90’s music and I look appreciably at the fashions, and for a short time I am comfortable in the knowledge that there is nothing that this little video can do to throw me off my game (oh, how the mighty fall)…
The basic premise of the video is a group of 3 boys and 3 girls that are friends. They begin to notice each other and the weird feelings they get around each other (like that time they climbed the rope in gym class…sorry, had to be done) and their changing bodies…eeegads. I think things are going along fine until the narrator (who is the voice of one of the boys all grown-up) begins to talk about the “crush” he had in school. Enter mini-Maxim cover model. This “little girl” looked like something you would have seen in the movie “Weird Science”. As she ran her fingers through her long white blond hair and applied her lipgloss I wondered what happend to the other 3 girls that were hanging out earlier in the video. Okay, Strike One for stereo-typical lewdness and overt sexuality. Moving on, the video goes on to explain many value-added points about biology and chemistry (with all the appropriate diagrams and incredibly real-to-life artistic renderings to accompany them). Then, when I am least expecting it, they hit me right between the eyes with a monster slang term (no, I will not tell you) that just about sends me to the floor in a puddle of mortified ooze. Suffice it to say it was not the medical description of the “event” and I looked over at the gym teacher just in time to see him smirking into his fist…yeah…you and me both buddy…you and me both. Strike Two…
All the explaining to this point has be done by big brother to little brother…where, you ask, are the parental units? Apparently, they are considered “The Man” in this scenario and left out of the video intentionally (smooth move educators…way to engender closer relationships filled with communication between parents and children). As I continue my private viewing, Strike Three comes around the bend. The young man begins to discuss some of his confusion with his pregnant Aunt (sure, of course he picks his pregnant Aunt…that makes loads of sense). She tells him he’s not alone. That the girls are going through changes now too. The narrator begins to explain the female reproductive system with some overzealous information about parts that are really not pertinent to reproduction and the 3rd and final strike crosses the plate. The narrator begins to explain that …well…let’s just say he gives the whole “Tab A” into “Slot B” explanation and how “Tab A” sends out “friends” to fertilize “Slot B’s” eggs after “insertion”. I mean…I don’t know where these two guys are from, but I can say without hesitation, that these are indeedy the “mechanics” of s-e-x. My gaze cuts to the principal and I can see that maybe, just possibly, he is seeing this information in a new light (like the one that’s shining like a spotlight on my face; which, by the way, is conspicuously void of anything approaching an “appropriately academic expression”) and that maybe, just possibly, this video has just told it’s audience how to have s-e-x. The video concludes with more music (that I felt vaguely like I should beat-box to) and a montage of kids romping around on the grass, because, as the narrators says “there is still plenty of time to just be a kid”…really knucklehead…because I’m pretty sure you just told my 11 year old how to have kids (full color diagrams and all)!!
The principal and I discuss some of my points of contention (him, a little red faced and explanatory, me a little red faced but firm) with the video…he nods his head sagely and I leave with a little notebook full words and phrases that would have gotten me kicked out of my little private school… Later, I talk with my girl-friend who was in the “Growing-Up Girls” program. She is shocked by what I have relayed to her and says that the girls program was mainly about feelings and hormones and the basic changes. She said that the only mention of reproduction came when the narrator says that “male sperm can fertilize the female egg resulting in a baby”, but all helpful tips (and full color diagrams) on how this is actually unfolds are left to the viewers imagination and the parents discretion (imagine that).
I came home and relayed all the info to my husband. After going over my notes, he asked simply…”Gee, if this isn’t sex ed, what’s next…handing out copies of the Kama Sutra?” I have since spoken again with the principal and have most vehemently not given my PERMISSION for our son to view this program. He said he understands and that after viewing the program again (with a lone woman in the room) he thinks he will amend next year’s letter to the parents letting them know that the “Growing-Up Boys” program may have more sexual content in it than it’s female counterpart, and encourage parents to view this material before their sons see it….GEE…WHAT A NOVEL IDEA!
Well, I’m off to the library now…I’m pretty sure I have a full day of more colored diagrams and note taking in my future.
At the end of every 5th grade year, my son’s school offers the “Growing-Up” program. The girls and boys are separated and shown videos about their changing bodies (oh goody) and have a kind of “what to expect when you are expecting horrific puberty-induced changes to your body” discussion. They give parents the opportunity to view the program ahead of time and have your child “opt-out” if the program doesn’t meet with your approval (providing you have received said “opt-out” slip…if not…tough luck for you and your impressionable youngster). The whole “opt-out” or “denial-slip” policy has been a bone of contention with me and the school district for a while now. I find it ridiculously back-handed to send home denial slips (that usually end up lost or covered in some kind of unmentionable schmootz at the bottom of the schoolbag) for any program that isn’t reading, writing or ‘rithmetic related. I think this is just big government, once again, reaching the lowest common denominator and circumventing our parental rights to give our expressed “permission” for our children to view any programs outside of the normal curriculum’s purview …but let’s go on before this disintegrates into one of my conspiracy theory rants (I make O’Reilly look like some Mr. Microphone toting kindergartener).
When the principal asked us to raise our hands if we were a “boy-parent” and my lone digits reached toward the drop ceiling, I knew I was in for a rip-roaring’ good time. He explained that the programs dealt solely with the changes the students would be experiencing over the coming year and hygiene related issues. He very pointedly said that they would not be discussing the mechanics of s-e-x. (gee…we’re not going to give a “how-to” lecture about s-e-x with 11 years olds…why ever not). At this point, the boy-parent and the girl-parents were separated into different rooms. As I walked down the looonnng echoey hallway with the principal and gym-teacher, my alter-ego (Andrea, the nervously inappropriate comedienne), began to surface. She said things like, “good-times guys, good-times” and “if you hear what you think is giggling, assume I’m choking and that I am performing a self-Heimlich maneuver”. Ever being the “good” student I took the front seat until the principal informed me I may be “uncomfortably” close to the material. We all take our seats (and no, gross, not next to each other…sick) and the video begins. Right off the bat my foot tapped in time to the beat of the early 90’s music and I look appreciably at the fashions, and for a short time I am comfortable in the knowledge that there is nothing that this little video can do to throw me off my game (oh, how the mighty fall)…
The basic premise of the video is a group of 3 boys and 3 girls that are friends. They begin to notice each other and the weird feelings they get around each other (like that time they climbed the rope in gym class…sorry, had to be done) and their changing bodies…eeegads. I think things are going along fine until the narrator (who is the voice of one of the boys all grown-up) begins to talk about the “crush” he had in school. Enter mini-Maxim cover model. This “little girl” looked like something you would have seen in the movie “Weird Science”. As she ran her fingers through her long white blond hair and applied her lipgloss I wondered what happend to the other 3 girls that were hanging out earlier in the video. Okay, Strike One for stereo-typical lewdness and overt sexuality. Moving on, the video goes on to explain many value-added points about biology and chemistry (with all the appropriate diagrams and incredibly real-to-life artistic renderings to accompany them). Then, when I am least expecting it, they hit me right between the eyes with a monster slang term (no, I will not tell you) that just about sends me to the floor in a puddle of mortified ooze. Suffice it to say it was not the medical description of the “event” and I looked over at the gym teacher just in time to see him smirking into his fist…yeah…you and me both buddy…you and me both. Strike Two…
All the explaining to this point has be done by big brother to little brother…where, you ask, are the parental units? Apparently, they are considered “The Man” in this scenario and left out of the video intentionally (smooth move educators…way to engender closer relationships filled with communication between parents and children). As I continue my private viewing, Strike Three comes around the bend. The young man begins to discuss some of his confusion with his pregnant Aunt (sure, of course he picks his pregnant Aunt…that makes loads of sense). She tells him he’s not alone. That the girls are going through changes now too. The narrator begins to explain the female reproductive system with some overzealous information about parts that are really not pertinent to reproduction and the 3rd and final strike crosses the plate. The narrator begins to explain that …well…let’s just say he gives the whole “Tab A” into “Slot B” explanation and how “Tab A” sends out “friends” to fertilize “Slot B’s” eggs after “insertion”. I mean…I don’t know where these two guys are from, but I can say without hesitation, that these are indeedy the “mechanics” of s-e-x. My gaze cuts to the principal and I can see that maybe, just possibly, he is seeing this information in a new light (like the one that’s shining like a spotlight on my face; which, by the way, is conspicuously void of anything approaching an “appropriately academic expression”) and that maybe, just possibly, this video has just told it’s audience how to have s-e-x. The video concludes with more music (that I felt vaguely like I should beat-box to) and a montage of kids romping around on the grass, because, as the narrators says “there is still plenty of time to just be a kid”…really knucklehead…because I’m pretty sure you just told my 11 year old how to have kids (full color diagrams and all)!!
The principal and I discuss some of my points of contention (him, a little red faced and explanatory, me a little red faced but firm) with the video…he nods his head sagely and I leave with a little notebook full words and phrases that would have gotten me kicked out of my little private school… Later, I talk with my girl-friend who was in the “Growing-Up Girls” program. She is shocked by what I have relayed to her and says that the girls program was mainly about feelings and hormones and the basic changes. She said that the only mention of reproduction came when the narrator says that “male sperm can fertilize the female egg resulting in a baby”, but all helpful tips (and full color diagrams) on how this is actually unfolds are left to the viewers imagination and the parents discretion (imagine that).
I came home and relayed all the info to my husband. After going over my notes, he asked simply…”Gee, if this isn’t sex ed, what’s next…handing out copies of the Kama Sutra?” I have since spoken again with the principal and have most vehemently not given my PERMISSION for our son to view this program. He said he understands and that after viewing the program again (with a lone woman in the room) he thinks he will amend next year’s letter to the parents letting them know that the “Growing-Up Boys” program may have more sexual content in it than it’s female counterpart, and encourage parents to view this material before their sons see it….GEE…WHAT A NOVEL IDEA!
Well, I’m off to the library now…I’m pretty sure I have a full day of more colored diagrams and note taking in my future.
A Promise is a Promise
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
When my girlfriend quoted this verse to me, I was completely taken aback. It really shook me to have it so plainly delineated for me...God knows me AND has a plan for me. God, who made the heavens and the earth and more importantly...bacon, could sit down over tea and give a complete run down of my life, what has passed and what's in the playbook still to come. He knows that I sometimes get so scared by the evil that I want to hide in a shoe box, and He knows that I am often so hardheaded that the only way to keep me on the path is with a good swift kick to my backside. He has this aerial view of my path on the big map of life. He knows which right hand turn will lead to joy and which Michigan left will take me to despair. I was so comforted and then electrified by it. I felt like I had stumbled onto some "fountain of peace". But, of course, being the border line spaz that I am, I reveled in my new found treasure for a day or so and then moved on to fall TV premier season. A couple months later (yep...it took that long), I asked her about it... "Hey, remember that verse you told me about. It was in one of those books like Nahum or Habakkuk." She laughed and told me I would need to give her a bit more. I said "All I remember is that God has a plan for me for the future". Ah yes, she said:
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Again I was struck dumb (more difficult than one would hope). I shivered at the omnipotence and omniscience of my God. I couldn't wait to show Russ and tell everyone I know (even the guy at the market...he didn't seem quite as "electrified"). When I looked up the verse online to copy and paste on my FB page, I saw all these links, and because I am at times deluded into thinking that I must know everything about everything, I spent hours scanning the links and soaking up what amounted to a lot of disagreement. In a nut shell: Does this verse have any relevance/promise to us as Christians today, or is it merely part of a historical account regarding the Jews that were exiled and living under the rule of King Nebuchadnezzer?
With every click of my mouse, I felt a little more deflated. Had I made the classic mistake of taking the Bible out of context to satisfy and justify my own thoughts and feelings? I mean, I have a lot of respect for people of knowledge (especially since I am not exactly cut out for higher learning...which is why my college English prof thought I was absent so much I must have mono), but I also know that too much "book learnin'" can dull a body's ability to go from the gut and discern with the heart. So which was true? I had to know.
What I know is this...that while this is an account of history, God has a purpose for every jot and dot that the Holy Spirit inspired man to write. The Old Testament is an account of history, sure, but it is also rife with truth and promise...that's why God included it and didn't just wait and inspire the New Testament. I know that we as God's people are all exiles in the world. Meant to make our homes, lead full lives and enjoy, revel and prosper in the time that we have here, even if it is but for a moment. I know that God knows that those inspired, living words would, on October 8th, 2009 give Andrea Dodge comfort and empower her to lead a more God centered life so she can stay on the path. That she would know that even though she basically stinks at the big picture, she can take comfort knowing that God has her covered. He has plans for her and hers that reach 70 plus years into the future... plans full of hope, plans that will prosper (though maybe not through a winning lotto ticket ,but through peace and wholeness) and not harm. And if I had any more doubts or reservations, all I needed was a little chat with my Dad. My Dad , who is the most practical and real-life Christian (not to mention full-on guido dude) I have ever met. I asked , "Did he think that that verse was just a historical account that shouldn't be taken as a promise?" To which he replied, "What a load of crap....Of course God meant if for us...geesh."
Well, there you have it folks....
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
When my girlfriend quoted this verse to me, I was completely taken aback. It really shook me to have it so plainly delineated for me...God knows me AND has a plan for me. God, who made the heavens and the earth and more importantly...bacon, could sit down over tea and give a complete run down of my life, what has passed and what's in the playbook still to come. He knows that I sometimes get so scared by the evil that I want to hide in a shoe box, and He knows that I am often so hardheaded that the only way to keep me on the path is with a good swift kick to my backside. He has this aerial view of my path on the big map of life. He knows which right hand turn will lead to joy and which Michigan left will take me to despair. I was so comforted and then electrified by it. I felt like I had stumbled onto some "fountain of peace". But, of course, being the border line spaz that I am, I reveled in my new found treasure for a day or so and then moved on to fall TV premier season. A couple months later (yep...it took that long), I asked her about it... "Hey, remember that verse you told me about. It was in one of those books like Nahum or Habakkuk." She laughed and told me I would need to give her a bit more. I said "All I remember is that God has a plan for me for the future". Ah yes, she said:
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Again I was struck dumb (more difficult than one would hope). I shivered at the omnipotence and omniscience of my God. I couldn't wait to show Russ and tell everyone I know (even the guy at the market...he didn't seem quite as "electrified"). When I looked up the verse online to copy and paste on my FB page, I saw all these links, and because I am at times deluded into thinking that I must know everything about everything, I spent hours scanning the links and soaking up what amounted to a lot of disagreement. In a nut shell: Does this verse have any relevance/promise to us as Christians today, or is it merely part of a historical account regarding the Jews that were exiled and living under the rule of King Nebuchadnezzer?
With every click of my mouse, I felt a little more deflated. Had I made the classic mistake of taking the Bible out of context to satisfy and justify my own thoughts and feelings? I mean, I have a lot of respect for people of knowledge (especially since I am not exactly cut out for higher learning...which is why my college English prof thought I was absent so much I must have mono), but I also know that too much "book learnin'" can dull a body's ability to go from the gut and discern with the heart. So which was true? I had to know.
What I know is this...that while this is an account of history, God has a purpose for every jot and dot that the Holy Spirit inspired man to write. The Old Testament is an account of history, sure, but it is also rife with truth and promise...that's why God included it and didn't just wait and inspire the New Testament. I know that we as God's people are all exiles in the world. Meant to make our homes, lead full lives and enjoy, revel and prosper in the time that we have here, even if it is but for a moment. I know that God knows that those inspired, living words would, on October 8th, 2009 give Andrea Dodge comfort and empower her to lead a more God centered life so she can stay on the path. That she would know that even though she basically stinks at the big picture, she can take comfort knowing that God has her covered. He has plans for her and hers that reach 70 plus years into the future... plans full of hope, plans that will prosper (though maybe not through a winning lotto ticket ,but through peace and wholeness) and not harm. And if I had any more doubts or reservations, all I needed was a little chat with my Dad. My Dad , who is the most practical and real-life Christian (not to mention full-on guido dude) I have ever met. I asked , "Did he think that that verse was just a historical account that shouldn't be taken as a promise?" To which he replied, "What a load of crap....Of course God meant if for us...geesh."
Well, there you have it folks....
Move Over Mona
The common is so ridiculously beautiful. I try to capture it when I smell the baby's hair and hug their growing boy bodies. When I kiss them goodnight and their plain faced love looks out at me from the blankets. I love the tight choking lump in my throat when I hear the National Anthem, and the desperate feeling of pride in my family and country.
All these are common and should be captured and put in the Louvre. Mona's smile has nothing on my baby's. Her beauty pales in comparison to my sons' belly laughs and dirty dog smells after a hard day of play. I want to download their newborn cries on my iPod. Their first words are epic novels that I read again and again. These works of art take my breath away.
The bright green grass and a cool, Michigan, morning breeze through the kitchen windows while I make eggs. The commotion of motion of 3 "like-new, barely used" people running and jumping and spilling juice. My dog leaves archaeologically perfect footprints on the carpet, and nose print smears on the windows. I follow the trail of my love...sock by sock. I put my nose in his shirts and breathe in our history.
All these would leave no room for the works of Monet and Goya. Just room after room filled with the common, uncommon gorgelicious moments of my life.
All these are common and should be captured and put in the Louvre. Mona's smile has nothing on my baby's. Her beauty pales in comparison to my sons' belly laughs and dirty dog smells after a hard day of play. I want to download their newborn cries on my iPod. Their first words are epic novels that I read again and again. These works of art take my breath away.
The bright green grass and a cool, Michigan, morning breeze through the kitchen windows while I make eggs. The commotion of motion of 3 "like-new, barely used" people running and jumping and spilling juice. My dog leaves archaeologically perfect footprints on the carpet, and nose print smears on the windows. I follow the trail of my love...sock by sock. I put my nose in his shirts and breathe in our history.
All these would leave no room for the works of Monet and Goya. Just room after room filled with the common, uncommon gorgelicious moments of my life.
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